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We all have been happy and sad at some point in our life but it’s important to realize the difference between mood changes that are normal and those that are extreme. The list of disorders is a lengthy one, with depression ranking as one of the most common. I’m sure you’ve heard more than once someone saying that they are depressed, and usually what they are describing are their current emotions, not necessarily depression as defined from a clinical standpoint. Sadness, anxiety and any other negative emotion can cause a person to enter a depressed state. Such feelings are most likely followed after a traumatic event such as death in the family, the end of a relationship and/or the loss of a job. Although it is only normal to feel sadness after a painful event, gradually and over time those feelings work themselves out, and mood stability is restored; unfortunately, that is just not the case for everyone. Depression comes in several forms and DSM-IV-TR (diagnostic manual) recognizes two categories: Major depression and dysthymic disorder.

Depression is a very sad state to be in, not only because you feel constantly sad but also because everything around you falls apart. Relationships get destroyed, families fall apart and the world is constantly moving but you are stuck in one place unable to do anything but sit and wonder what’s next. The inability to function normally and the frustration inside leads many people to have suicidal thoughts which many peruse. One of my close friends got out of a relationship with her boyfriend of 2 years and she became every depressed. She had difficulty sleeping, ate every little, lost interest in everything around her, lost her job and ended up taking pills to try and catch some sleep. after a year she was finally able to get her life on track and catch up with the rest of the world. If you feel depressed and unable to function after a very sad event, that’s only normal but if your depression last more than 3 months that when action should be taken.

Major depression VS Dysthymic disorder

Many people wonder how psychologist determine whether or not we are depressed and if so how severely; let’s begin by further explaining major depression.

The diagnosis for major depression requires that the individual experiences either depressed mood or loss of interest in daily activities, work, friendships, relationships; in other word struggling every day in easy to do activities. also, aside from the above listed, the individual must experience at least four other symptoms of depression. in order to be qualified as legitimate symptoms, they have to be severe enough to interfere with the person’s ability to function in everyday life. Dysthymic disorder is a less severe form of depression, the only difference being it is also chronic.to be diagnosed with dysthymic disorder an individual has to experience at least two other symptoms of depression, while at the same time experiencing a depressed mood. as I mentioned before, dysthymic disorder is chronic, and because of that, in order to be diagnosed you must experience the aforementioned symptoms for at least two years. during these two years the person must have ongoing symptoms of depression, and never have been without them for more than two months. an interesting case arises when both disorders are diagnosed in the same patient at the same time. Although the individual will be in the dysthymic mood most of the time, they will also have times when they fall into a major depression. However, even if the major depression episodes will eventually fade away, the individual will still continue to have mild depression, which falls into the category of dysthymic.moreover, the individual will never return into a normal/stable state of mood.

Symptoms of major depression and dysmthymic disorder

  1. Feeling intense hopelessness
  2. Low self esteem
  3. Worthlessness
  4. Extreme fatigue
  5. Dramatic changes in sleeping and eating
  6. Loss of interest
  7. Suicidal thoughts

Gender and Depression

According to Twenge & Nolen-Heksema 2002, the rates of depression in girls escalates dramatically over the course of puberty, while those of boys do not. It should come as no surprise that girls are more prone to depression than boys. during the adolescence years, girls more than boys are becoming aware of their body. of course, the most obvious role models girls look up to are those representing the fashion industry. Girls will do anything to look just like their favorite super model. this is what leads thirteen year old girls to significantly higher levels of depression than boys. as I mentioned in my previews blog post The Veil of Modeling The flawless skin, the perfect hair, the bright white smile and the rosy lips make us envy them as we tried so hard to be just like them. When we hit our teenage years, as we become more aware of our body we start to dislike what we see on us, because we look quite different from that prefect girl featured on those ad’s and posters. Body dissatisfaction and appearance is closely related to low self esteem, which make depression more likely to surface. When it comes to boys, they don’t usually pay as much attention to their physical traits as girls do. in fact, boys tend to like the changes their bodies undergo, as they favor the increase in muscle mass and the associated pubertal changes.

The science

Communication system is essential to all of the brain’s functions as the neurons are communicating with each other by exchanging neurotransmitters. Depression is characterized by the imbalance between the three neurotransmitters dopamine, serotonin and norepinephrine. Serotonin and norepinephrine regulate many important physiological functions such as mood, sleep, eating, and sexual behavior; once this chemicals are decreased than people are prone to depression. When the serotonin molecules are released to the synaptic junction for the other neuron to receive the message, many of them get destroyed in the synaptic junction because the other neuron doesn’t absorb message sent by the other neuron. Due to the lack of passing on the message to the other neurons, the emotion will be lost.

Getting better.

There are two major types of therapy, biochemical and psychological. Biochemical treatments involve drugs that will help stabilize the neurotransmitter imbalance, primarily with serotonin and norepinephrine activity. Antidepressants are the most common medication used to treat depression as they help ease these imbalances. Psychological therapy involves psychoanalysis, or what we call today the talk therapies. The licensed psychologist has sessions with the person who suffers from the disorder as they discuss the problem and the ways of overcoming it. Use of biochemical and psychological treatments have proven to be more effective when combined together. The patient takes medication to restore the chemical balance in their brain, all while seeing a therapist at the same time, to talk things out so the patient is not overwhelmed with different emotions and the mind equilibrium is kept.

If you have broken up with your boyfriend don’t despair for you can always find ways on how to win back your ex and make him want you more than he had ever thought possible so that he’ll never think of breaking up with you again. You can do this even if your boyfriend has already left you for another or even if he tells you he no longer loves you. You just have to know the right buttons to push and the mistakes you have to avoid.

The Importance of Knowing how to make Your Ex Come Back to You

It is important to know the right moves on how to make your ex boyfriend come back to you. most women act on their emotions instinctively. They think that when they run after their exes, apply pressure, they can force their exes to commit into the relationship again. wrong. These women are only doing the surest things to drive their boyfriends away from their lives permanently. Learn from these mistakes. Instead, try to put yourself into your ex boyfriend’s shoes. Would you want him to harass you into getting back? Wouldn’t you be annoyed with the constant calling and texting? Aren’t you going to be pissed when your ex makes it known that you are to blame for the breakup?

Earn his Love and Respect Back

You can definitely earn the relationship back by earning your ex-boyfriend’s love and respect. the love is easier to earn as it has always been there. You just need to rekindle it. it is the respect that is harder to earn, so you have to be very careful not to lose it in the first place. in earning your ex-boyfriend’s love and respect, you have t work on learning how to love and respect yourself more. You cannot give what you do not have, in the same manner that you cannot expect others to give them to you without giving you giving them to yourself first. take the time to evaluate your part in the breakup while giving your ex-boyfriend the time to reassess his own part. Live your life the way you should without your boyfriend. This will make him feel that you are not dependent on him in any way. when your ex-boyfriend realizes your worth and how he has become the loser in losing you, he himself will take the necessary action to win you back into his life.

How to Win Back Your Ex and Make Him Want You More

Can Someone Fall Out of Love?

by on October 18, 2011

How can someone fall out of love with you? It is often given as the reason for ending a relationship. Love isn’t easily defined, and means different things to people making it difficult to understand.

Has their Perception of You Changed?

Every person will develop an image of what they consider to be an ideal mate. The more people you’ve dated, the more refined that image can become as you experience personality traits you either desire or don’t appreciate.

A strong connection is easily developed when someone you meet matches the description of what you consider to be an ideal mate. It is also common for new couples to ignore negative traits to make someone appear more ideal.

As familiarity sets in and passion fades, the negative traits that were once ignored become more apparent. as their perception of you changes, you are less likely to match their image of an ideal partner. If you veer too far from what they believe they want in a partner, they’ll begin to question the relationship and their love for you.

Did Your Partner have a Life Altering Event?

Life altering events, like accidents or illness, can create a strong bond between two people who share the experience together. The events also have the power and influence to divide a couple. If your partner has experienced a traumatic event that was not shared, it can leave them feeling isolated. It also develops a significant portion of their life that you’re not considered a part of.

Your partner will view you as someone who can’t relate to their problems, which can damage your bond. The lack of understanding, or closeness, creates a sense of falling out of love with you.

When your partner begins to pull away from the relationship, believing they’re not in love with you, it’s important to connect with their current views and experiences. trying to force you partner to remain consistent with their past emotions will prove difficult.

Can Someone Fall Out of Love?

Missoni, the Sumirago Fashion House

by on September 17, 2011

Missoni is often considered one of the most beautiful fashion houses in the entire world. Although every design they put forth may not be cutting-edge, the style is always there. they are one of the only fashion brands to carry a reputation for consistent beauty. Missoni’s powerful tradition of creating new products has trickled down to their competitors. the business has meager beginnings, starting in 1953 to little acclaim and eventually building a lavish and luxurious fashion empire. the Missoni name has come a long way since the days of a basement studio in Sumirago, Milan.

Rosita and Ottavio Missoni met during the 1948 Olympic Games in London, England. Carrying on a relationship for the next five years, the two wed in 1953 and decided to take the plunge into fashion designing. they started a very small knitwear operation in the aforementioned Milan basement, and after much hard work and meager sales, the line started to take off in the 1960s.

It was during this time that the brand Missoni began to turn heads due to the colorful palettes, unique textures and a wide range of fabrics. the Missoni’s definitely had more than one ace in the deck, proving time and again that they could produce chic originality on demand.

Although Missoni picked up a head of steam in Italy, their brand was relatively unknown around the world. this all changed when Diana Vreeland of American Vogue took a liking to one of Missoni’s fashions and mentioned them in a 1970s edition of the magazine. of course, Vogue was the bible to fashionable American women in the 1970s. if it was printed in those crisp, clean pages, it had to be right. After the article ran, Missoni was on the forefront of the American woman’s mind, and their fashion sales exploded.

The family business started to grow tremendously. There was no possible way that the couple, juggling children and work now, could keep up with the demand – even with a few employees. Suddenly, the small family brand had become a conglomerate.

Many employees were hired and a large factory was built to handle the demand. Missoni was now found in some of the world’s most selective markets, and the sale numbers were huge. Over the years, the Missoni’s children have stepped in to help keep the line young and modern, appealing to younger women.

When the line started, the husband and wife couple created a unique logo that is their trademark: colored strips on all their clothing. With the fashions Missoni releases today, it’s like playing Where’s Waldo? when locating the stripes on some of the items, but they are still there.

This tradition is something the younger Missoni’s have kept alive and well. the tradition of Missoni is what makes them so unique in their clothing. While a lot of brands have drastically changed with the times and become unrecognizable, Missoni has modernized beautifully, never losing their originality. this is one of the many reasons they’re still sought after today.

Jackie O's views 'horrified' grandkids

Caroline Kennedy says her daughters were ‘horrified’ by Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis’ old-fashioned view of the role of women in taped interviews released this week.

In the 1964 interviews with Arthur Schlesinger Jr, the young widow described her marriage as ‘a rather terribly Victorian or Asiatic relationship’ and said she got all her opinions from her husband, President John F Kennedy.

Caroline Kennedy told good Morning America on Wednesday that her two daughters were ‘absolutely horrified’ when they listened to that portion of the tapes.

She said they asked: ‘Did she really think that?’

But Kennedy says the tapes are ‘just a snapshot of a world we barely recognise.’

The audio recordings are being released Wednesday along with a book, ‘Jacqueline Kennedy: Historic Conversations on Life With John F. Kennedy.’

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I'm very curious about this, if you married someone who is from a different race then you, would it be able to actually work out. because i have this friend she is chinese and i'm vietnamese we both been really good friends with each other, we do stuff like study together and hangout and make youtube videos. but would it ever be possible for us to have a relationship together ? It would really cool if i could start a relationship or even marriage with her. do you think it's actually possible ?

Of course it is. as long as there's no crossdressing involved, everyone will be happy.

To me, it doesn't matter the color of one's skin so long as you love that person and are willing to defend your postition.

I've got a white cousin who married a black man in the Southern US. They have been together for over 20 years now and are doing fantabulously with three daughters.

It's 2009… WAKE UP!

Depends how willing you are to accept each other's culture. I am white and my husband is hispanic. We have been married for 12 years and are happy.

I can see you two opening a dry cleaning business together……*sound of "Chopsticks" playing in the background*………Ancient Chinese secret! Haw Haw haw…….

Well there are "cat" people and there are "dog" people . I would definately not be eating dinner at either pagoda.

It should not matter unless there is some innate cultural hatred betwixt the Chinese and Vietnamese. go for it. Are you sure she's willing?

*** SWEET MILDRED IS MY LEADER…CRAWL INTO HER PLAYPEN WITH ME***

yes it does happen..basically the mindsets of people shuld match…..there shuld be love and understanding….moreover its fun to know a different religion and culture and their festivals and their foods

It just depends on the two cultures and the two families. I don't know how Chinese people feel about Vietnamese nor how Vietnamese feel about Chinese. in many asian cultures they focus alot on Honor. Would they consider marrying outside of the culture dishonorable? so that would be something you would have to know within your family.

In America it's done all the time and people are married for years and years. some families accept it and others don't. It can work if there is real love and committment involved and you can make the necessary compromises to make it work.

Lisa on the Television show, Housewives of Atlanta is half Black and and Half Asian. her dad is Asian and her mom is Black and they been married for years and years and had like 5 kids together. Family seems happy and welcoming (according to television).

Go for it and see what happens!

I think Inter-Racial marriages are the best kind. the differences
in culture keeps it interesting, you learn a lot from each other,
and can share ideas from both backgrounds. It could be a little
more difficult compared to a plain old marriage, but the hard
work and commitment put into it will be worth it in the end.

I am going to marry outside of my race, regardless of what my
parents or anyone else thinks. Can't wait… =)

Of course it can work out. Many people have done that. but having said that, it also needs a lot of commitment and work to have it work.

Abstract

Faultline theory suggests that negative effects of team diversity are better understood by considering the influence of different dimensions of diversity in conjunction, rather than for each dimension separately. We develop and extend the social categorization analysis that lies at the heart of faultline theory to identify a factor that attenuates the negative influence of faultlines: the extent to which the team has shared objectives. The hypothesized moderating role of shared objectives received support in a study of faultlines formed by differences in gender, tenure, and functional background in 42 top management teams. The focus on top management teams has the additional benefit of providing the first test of the relationship between diversity faultlines and objective indicators of organizational performance. We discuss how these findings, and the innovative way in which we operationalized faultlines, extend faultline theory and research as well as offer guidelines to manage diversity faultlines.

Diversity faultlines, shared objectives, and top management team …

This is so wrong. That guy had been sending her letters going on about their “relationship” which never existed. Following her and so on. The guy showed up at the Tyra Banks show and was thrown off the premises to which he threatened Tyra’s staff person by telling them he would cut their throat. The judge only feels this guy should go for an evaluation? this is terrible. Who’s to say he is harmless or one of those stalkers that will eventually try to kill her, or someone close to her?

What do you think of the Tyra Banks stalker getting no jail time?

It was a very good movie, but it left a lot of unanswered questions. Such as: Did Bernadine and James actually develop a relationship?, Did Gloria and Marvin actually get together?, Did Savannah ever find a real man?, Did Russell decide to step up to the plate and help Robin with their baby?, etc. please give feedback.

The wife of Maricopa County Supervisor Fulton Brock was arrested Tuesday on suspicion of having a three-year affair with a 17-year-old boy, police said.

Susan M. Brock, 48, is being held without bond on two counts of molestation of a child and two counts of sexual conduct with a minor, said Chandler Police Sgt. Joe Favazzo.

According to a police report, Brock is accused of picking the Chandler teen up from his home or school, and committing as many as 30 sexual acts in her car, her home, her mother’s home and secluded areas of the city. The acts did not include intercourse, police said.

The alleged affair came to light when family friends intercepted messages on the boy’s iPod Touch that included references to sex acts and the discovery of a relationship between the victim and Brock, the report said.

The friends told the teen’s parents. The victim and his parents approached police Friday, Favazzo said.”The victim was 14-years-old when it started,” he said.

In a statement, Fulton Brock said his life and that of his three children “was upended last night.”

“Even with this statement I am not sure how to express what such a shocking emotional punch to your heart and family feels like. I am stunned,” the supervisor said.

“My children are flabbergasted. You think you know someone after 28 years and I need answers as much as police officers do. I want so much to believe these allegations are not true, but if they are, I am appalled and crushed. I am a religious man. I ask all to pray for our family and those involved so that justice may best be served.”

The report details the subterfuge Brock and the teen allegedly used to avoid detection, and the gifts she allegedly gave him to aid in their communication, including an iPod, iPod Touch and two iPhones.

The report says she instructed him to at times say he was jogging so they could meet. It also says she used the moniker “Timmy Turner” in texts. that is the name of a Cartoon Network character from the TV show fairly Odd Parents.

Interim Maricopa County Attorney Rick Romley said attorneys in his office first learned of the Chandler Police investigation into Susan Brock when she made her initial appearance before a judge, who denied Brock bond.

Romley said other charges could be leveled against Susan Brock, depending on the evidence that comes out of the investigation.

But those charges and the rest of the case against Susan Brock will all be handled by Pinal County Attorney James Walsh, who agreed to take the case after Romley contacted him Wednesday morning.

Brock, who represents the southeast Valley, has served on the Board of Supervisors since 1996 and was most recently re-elected in 2008. He and his wife have been married for at least 28 years, according to his county website.

Their family lives in Chandler. Brock, a Republican, has served three times as chairman of the Board of Supervisors.

Wife of Maricopa County supervisor accused of sex acts with minor